Wednesday, October 3, 2012

MIL

A few posts ago I promised to write about my MIL. Sometimes she drives me crazy, but we've never really had a falling out. She has fallen out with another of her DIL's and I get glimpses of her irrational petty hateful side. I am currently in the good books but can see hoe easily this could change. So far we've avoided it, mainly because I hate confrontation, and my hubby loves it so he takes her on which saves me!! The worst was when bubs was first born, and MIL came in the next morning (we allowed no visitors on the birth day!) with the FLU! To a neonatal ward! She was trying to hide it, and holding my baby. Somehow I came out of my fog enough to notice it (hubby was out playing cricket) and made my excuses that I needed to take her to the nursery for her feed and to get help from the midwife. Then hubby told her to stay away until she was better, and she got all upset accusing us of trying to keep her away. She couldn't understand we just didn't want the baby sick. So irrational. It's never been as bas as that again, but she has little digs occasionally, usually the complaint that she doesnt see us (bubs) enough, that my mum sees her more blah blah blah. They're actually away on holidays for 3 months at the moment so it's nice and peaceful, and I can even say I am missing her just a little. She truly loves my bub and at the end of the day she's not so bad. I am grateful that it's as good as it is. After reading the experiences of others here I realise it could be much much worse!

2 comments:

  1. Yep...totally jealous of your MIL...I would give to have what you have....but we are all dealt a certain hand and well....like kenny rogers said, "you got to know when to walk away, and when to run..."

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  2. The situation with my MIL is pretty good I think, we just don't see her much. She is the sweetest person and would do anything for us, but she's a little older and cares for her husband. We've never had an issue with her judging us, and honestly I don't think I would handle that very well. Of course I see some MIL's who are best friends with their DIL's, younger, and more active, but I guess we can't have it all. I'm glad things have improved since the initial meeting with bubs!

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